Parenting with awareness – 7 yogic tools by Radha Vine
Our very own soul mamma Radha Vine shares her insight into Parenting with Awareness using 7 yogic tools.
Trust your intuition:
Intuition is a faculty of the higher mind. In the busy life of parenting the mind is often bogged down in the mundanity of life, given little time for introspection and quiet. Intuition is a spontaneous arising of knowing just the right thing to do and say. This is not an intellectual process but rather an act of freedom, of responding to the moment and being in the flow. Not “responsibility” but the ability to respond. Meditation is the tool to awaken intuition. Meditation can take many forms and the techniques are varied to suit everyone’s temperament and situation.
Remember to breath:
The breath is a direct line between body, mind and emotions, it allows bio feedback between the internal world and outward expression. Mastering simple breath techniques allows insight into our state of mind, tensions and our life of feelings. With insight comes knowledge and with knowledge the power to change our actions and reactions to the practicalities of family life.
Giving yourself permission for purposeful, integrated relaxation fosters a resource of energy from within that is available for personal support and well being that flows out into your family. In practical terms it combats sleep deprivation, diffuses anxiety and conflict by supporting clearer thinking and calmness.
It’s Ok to feel strong emotion both in your children and yourself. So often we want to make everything all right at the cost of understanding and expression. Swami Satyananda said “expression before suppression” . This is not an open invitation for bad behaviour but rather an opportunity to sit with discomfort while a process takes place, a process that often shifts to an increased awareness. The practices of Bhakti (devotion) yoga allow for healthy channeling emotions.
Expand your thinking:
Yoga integrates the philosophy of Tantra into a living science. Tantra literally means expanding your thinking and through that expansion liberation. Many meditation techniques that direct the mind and awareness, (such as Trataka – candle gazing) are drawn from Tantric teachings. Freedom of thought, creativity and being in the flow of life are direct outcomes of a such a practice.
Maintaining family harmony and a personal centre requires a yogic approach to the “doing” of family life. Appreciating all that needs to be done as an act of service without attachment or need for recognition places family life firmly in the realm of karma yoga.
Appreciating the soul connection:
Our children come to us by a silver thread of a psychic umbilical cord that travels through time and space to connect us on a level we may not always appreciate or understand. That connection is perfect. We are perfect for them in all we have to offer and they are perfect for us in all they teach us. Acceptance of this deep underlying bond sustains our trust in each other through the mundane and the difficult.